"We never get a choice about who will die in our lives. But we do get to choose what to do with our memories. By using our memories to make poetry, drawings, tattoos, blogs and stories, we create a truth we can live with. By turning our feelings into something we can touch, explore, and treasure, we transform our grief so that it brings us new understanding, new strength." I am trying hard to understand the loss of Darren, or believe it. I guess I do this blog so I can share my weakness, my pain, my loss so that none of us who Darren touched with his life thinks they are alone.